Let go of your worries- Don’t carry them forward

Stress is not just a feeling. Everyone experiences stress at some point or the other and the fact that coping with stress isn’t something we were taught in school, leads to perfect recipie for being tensed and unhappy. Today I will tell you a story that I read somewhere few years back.

Once upon a time a psychology professor walked around on a stage while teaching stress management principles to an auditorium filled with students. As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected they’d be asked the typical “glass half empty or glass half full” question. Instead, with a smile on her face, the professor asked, “How heavy is this glass of water I’m holding?”

Students shouted out answers ranging from eight ounces to a couple pounds.

She replied, “From my perspective, the actual weight of this glass doesn’t matter. It all depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute or two, it’s fairly light. If I hold it for half an hour straight, its weight might make my arm ache a little. If I hold it for a day straight, my arm will likely cramp up . In each case, the weight of the glass doesn’t change, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it feels to me.”

As the class shook their heads in agreement, she continued, “Your stresses and worries in life are very much like this glass of water. Think about them for a while and nothing happens. Think about them a bit longer and you begin to ache a little. Think about them all day long, and you will feel completely numb and paralyzed – incapable of doing anything else .

Moral of the Story is, It’s important to remember to let go of your stresses and worries. No matter what happens during the day, as early in the evening as you can, put all your burdens down. Don’t carry them through the night and into the next day with you. If you still feel the weight of yesterday’s stress, it’s a strong sign that it’s time to put the glass down.

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No act of kindness is ever wasted

When was the last time that you were kind to someone? I think there is nothing as rewarding as kindness. Empathy, compassion and kindness goes a long way.

Treat others the way you want to be treated. If you shout, scream, criticize and demean others, don’t be surprised when no one is interested in being with you or listening to you. Anger, stress and worry escalates ageing whereas being kind gives you mental peace and de- accelerates the process. Spread love and humanity.

Today I will tell you a story from Aesop fables, which you must have heard when you were young.

The Lion and the Mouse

A LION was awakened from sleep by a Mouse running over his face. Rising up angrily, he caught him and was about to kill him, when the Mouse piteously entreated, saying:

“If you would spare my life, I would be sure to repay your kindness.”

The Lion laughed, but let him go. Shortly after this the Lion was caught by some hunters,
who bound him by strong ropes to the ground. The Mouse, recognizing his roar, came and gnawed the rope with his teeth and set him free.

The Moral of the story is No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted .

Do you agree that kindness is beneficial? Drop in your comments if you have any story to share

Annual Blogger bash award- Nominated. Please Vote!

Wanted to share some good news! My blog is nominated for the blogger Bash award and the winner of the award is decided through online voting

After two months of nominations, they have put up the FINAL LIST OF NOMINEES , for the Annual Bloggers Bash Awards 2019.

As you know, my Blog has got nominated under category, “Best Personal development Blog” this year, so if you like my blog and really want to help me, a vote would be wonderful.

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There are several categories. Keep scrolling down. You will see “Personal development” category. Under that, my name ” Sneha” would be there. Click on it and then Click on ” Vote”

About my blog

snehaexpression.com is India’s Feminist and Personal development blog which believes in Self Acceptance, self love and urges everyone especially women to raise their voice and stand up for themselves.

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Never Let Failure hold you back

Are we so afraid to fail that we do not even want to try? Have we conditioned ourselves to believe that we can’t do it? That, it is not possible? Today I will tell you a story that I read in the thoughtcatalog.com

As a man was passing the elephants, he suddenly stopped, confused by the fact that these huge creatures were being held by only a small rope tied to their front leg. No chains, no cages. It was obvious that the elephants could, at any time, break away from their bonds but for some reason, they did not.
He saw a trainer nearby and asked why these animals just stood there and made no attempt to get away. ‘Well,’ trainer said, ‘when they are very young and much smaller we use the same size rope to tie them and, at that age, it’s enough to hold them. As they grow up, they are conditioned to believe they cannot break away. They believe the rope can still hold them, so they never try to break free.’ The man was amazed.

These animals could at any time break free from their bonds but because they believed they couldn’t, they were stuck right where they were.

So what does this teach you? Believe in yourself. If you think you can’t do something, then you are training your mind to believe that you cannot, and hence you do not succeed. Not failing isn’t important, what matters is whether you get up or not after you fail. Do not give up when you slip and don’t let fear of failure from the past hold you back in the future.
It took me a lot of time to understand that there is nothing You cannot achieve if you believe in yourself. Do you agree that believing in yourself increases your potentiality? Drop in your comments.

STOP Chasing Confidence

I have always been an under-confident girl in my childhood. In some ways, I still am. The “Stop Being Shy ” and ‘Be Confident’ advice from my parents, friends and teachers didn’t help me one bit. I have always been an introvert, feel drained while talking to people and always feel recharged when alone.

I think we need to stop chasing self confidence. Of course it’s nice to be a bold and confident woman who is life of every party, but what if you ain’t cut for it?

Let’s stop being critical and become compassionate. The pressure to be above average, if not something unique, is daunting. We need to be kind to others and ourselves too.

Don’t let anyone bully you. Don’t give others a chance to decide for you. And most importantly, Do not let anyone treat you like shit or demean you.

Do things which make you happy. If you like reading novels, read them. If you are fond of swimming , then do it. Do things which make you happy. And most importantly respect yourself. Atleast for me, Self respect and self compassion holds more importance.

ITS MY CHOICE!!

Finally have started my blog after a lot of contemplation and if you are anything like me, Confused and Indecisive, you would have also pondered a lot regarding what your first post should be. Well, a chance encounter of 20-20 biscuit advertisement in TV the other day, gave me enough fodder to contemplate and the impetus I needed. A girl was trying out a few dresses in a mall when her father asks, “Isn’t it a little short” and the mother exclaims , “Dress choti nahi Hoti, soch Hoti hai”.

No dress is indecent. Wearing clothes is a personal choice. Stop shaming our body and clothing choices. Why should people assume “Short dress= girl wants men to stare at her” ? The length of my dress is NOT a measure of my consent to have sex with you or even want you to ogle at me.

How am I responsible for the action of some “potential creep” who is going to stare at me for wearing a short dress? Please DO NOT teach your daughters to wear “Decent” clothes. When you tell us to cover ourselves and dress decently, you are damaging us and a million other girls by SHAMING us.

Instead of teaching your daughters to not wear short dresses, please teach your sons to not objectify women. Why are we constantly asked to “Cover” ourselves?

Instead, teach us that CLOTHES are NOT RESPONSIBLE for Rape, molestation and other abuse. Anyone can be sexually assaulted under any circumstances irrespective of wearing a saree or a bikini.

I remember an incident in school , when my friend’s mother was called regarding uniform’s length. The teacher tried justifying her irrational demand by stating she wanted to protect her from “Unwanted attention”. Instead of teaching boys to not view girls as sexual objects, my friend was shamed and “taught” to wear a long skirt to prevent men from staring at her. Moral Policing young girls and women has become a norm in our society! People say “Men will be men” and it’s upto us to protect ourselves by dressing “decently”. All I can say is , such regressive thinking is ingrained in our society which strips our freedom to dress as we please.

So Dear Family, Society, Well wishers , Moral Police Brigade and other Interfering busy bodies,

Next time if you tell me to dress up “Decently”, I am going to ask you to shove your Moral Policing up your **** !

Till then Goodbye friends,
Adios Amigos