Violent and misogynist? Does the character, Kabir Singh played by Shahid Kapoor, fit in this category? The answer is a reverberate and massive YES! I am not against showing misogyny in movies. I understand that not all movies are made for educational purposes, nor every movie needs to be morally correct. The only issue I have with this movie is, that it ended up normalising, in fact “glorifying” toxic relationship. How is it okay to justify violence against women in the name of ‘love’?

Okay, not only the hero but I also have issues with the heroine’s character. The woman is too demure, sometimes almost mute. All she does is ‘babying’ him in the movie. She lacks a backbone and is so gullible that it becomes irritating to watch her after a point, though the actress has done a good job.


Though the film is good in direction, screenplay and acting, it is the characterisation which is extremely problematic. Why is it so difficult for some people to understand that love should be liberating and not scary or overwhelming.

MISOGYNIST – Why I feel this movie is wrong on so many levels

There is a blatant glorification of misogyny and this movie tries to justify a sexist and toxic relationship. There should be mutual respect in a relationship. You do not own your partner. Your partner is your companion, not your property to slap her/him or decide whom she can talk to or be with friends with.

When the girl’s father refuses to accept him, he slaps her and leaves her crying and goes off giving an ultimatum. What would you do in such a case? Break his bones and break off with him, right? But here, she clings to him even more and begs him to not leave her! I know, totally bizarre!

I haven’t even come to the body-shaming part. He instructs her to be friends with only fat girls! Can somebody tell the director that Fat shaming is not cool? This character is so flawed and angry with the whole world that he doesn’t even behave properly with his family. And did I mention that he tries to sexually assault a girl in the opening scene itself?


The Shahid Kapoor starrer has already crossed 200 Crore mark in just two weeks! It has become one of the highest-grossing films of 2019. The controversy around the film definitely helped it in raking huge numbers. As they say, negative publicity is also good publicity!


In an interview with Anupam Chopra, the director of this movie Sandeep Reddy said “When you are deeply in love and are connected to a woman, if you don’t have the liberty of slapping each other, then I don’t see anything there”. He further stated that the people who are complaining now have never experienced real love! Since then, the director has been trolled and criticised on social media.

Badminton player Jwala Gutta wrote, “Movie was a movie…but justifying physical abuse?? If u love someone u have the right to slap? Gosh…this guy needs to be shown all the love without physical hurt!! Pathetic!!”

Kubbra Sait took to twitter and instagram to share two videos, which take a dig on Sandeep Reddy Vanga’s statement. In one video, Kubbra is seen slapping herself. She wrote, “If you can’t love yourself, you haven’t really loved yourself.”

Sona Mohapatra in her tweet said, “Does the actor have no responsibility for choosing to play a part in a narrative that can set us back as a society? Is that all we have become? Creatures of ambition?” When some twitter user pointed out that she had sung an item song ‘Bedardi Raja’, Sona wrote, “U are the nth moron trying to make such a false equivalence. A woman singing lustily & celebrating her own sexuality isn’t likely to cause violence & isn’t the same thing as a man grabbing a woman without her consent, kissing her apart from several other such toxic masculine acts.”

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