#MeToo – EXPOSED!!

She should have dressed ‘decently’

She shouldn’t have gone to late night parties

She drinks and smokes, so she must be ‘available’

It’s HER fault! She “Asked” for it !

Our Society has a rule book regarding how ‘decent’ women should behave, but why are there no guidelines for molesters? Unfortunately when women are harassed, they find it difficult to speak up, as in our society, a victim is shamed, subjected to humilation and her character is questioned .

After Producer-Writer Vinta Nanda accused Alok Nath of Rape, Actress Sandhya Mridul and Deepika Amin have also called out on him for Sexual harassment. Names like Sajid Khan, Singer Kailash Kher, Actor Rajat Kapoor, Nana Patekar, BCCI Rahul Johri, Member of Parliament MJ Akbar, have also come out in the recent wave of harassment allegations.

India’s #MeToo Movement which has recently gained momentum, started when Tanushree Dutta called out on Nana Patekar recently for harassing her in 2008. Since then, many women have come forward and found the courage to speak out.

Columnist/Journalist Tavleen Singh in her column of 14 October calls MeToo Movement irrelevant and a shabby copy of the movement that started in Hollywood. Well, isn’t it unfortunate that people have failed to understand that MeToo isn’t about Bollywood or Hollywood. It’s a tool of empowerment to expose molesters and abusers. It isn’t about Men v/s Women, Its about having courage to voice your opinion and speak up about the men who have tried taking advantage. TV Actress Hina Khan has rightly said “MeToo is not a media activity to gain cheap publicity. Consent and Submission are not the same. Time is always right to speak”.

The only defence these men have is “Why report so late”, Well isn’t it better to be late than never? I urge everyone Not to stay silent. We are neither weak nor Alone. I have seen my own friend being harrassed by my faculty during graduation. If someone is harrassing you, send an email to DCW. Delhi Commission for Women has set up a separate email id to report your complaints metoodcw@gmail.com

Do Not let this opportunity pass. Let’s shame Him Publicly. Let’s make India Safe for Women.

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Sneha

Sneha is an award-winning blogger and has also been featured in Deccan Chronicle newspaper. She left her job at IBM India to venture into blogging in 2018. This blog is India's Feminist and Personal Development blog for women and focuses on self-improvement and self-acceptance.

25 thoughts on “#MeToo – EXPOSED!!”

  1. Rightly said Sneha, this movement is not about a particular film industry, it’s about Men & Women. And hopefully, this might help keep a moral check on the behaviour of male organisms.
    Also, if the lady involved is getting some publicity in the process, what’s wrong with it… After all,she has also faced the wrath of being a victim.
    I know, 10% cases could be those cheap publicity stunts,but that 90% might just improve the quality of life for ladies..

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    1. Exactly. No one is denying that men won’t be accused falsely in this movement. May be 5-10% may, but then if 90% women who hv actually been harassed find courage to speak up, it’s worth it.

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  2. Thanks for this Sneha! All that time it’s the fear of being shamed that made women sit back but salute to those who’ve finally found the guts and confidence to speak, tell their stories and shame the molesters publicly.

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  3. Exactly My Thoughts
    Why is it always woman are questioned? If they speak up to what happened and pointed the finger at them rather than the molesters?
    Thanks For this Sneha
    Let’s end this and make a world safe for women
    ps : can i have ur twitter id?

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    1. It’s a norm to blame women but now it’s going to change. People are coming forward and publicly shaming their abusers.
      My I’d is – @snehaexpression , I joined twitter a year back though I started using it just a week back , so it was a shock when I saw Vinta Nanda Followed me 🙂

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  4. We, female persons, should be aware of the fact that letting those who molest, harass or rape women to get away with it is equal with giving them ‘green light’ to commit such gruesome crime again. Besides, from the legal point of view, it is never late to report such cases as they can never become out of date, they have no ‘expiry date’ in front of the law. Although we still live in patriarchal, ‘men-made’ society, not any blackmail or threat should be an obstacle for us to expose such crimes, since by doing so, we are not tarnishing our reputation, but bringing justice to ourselves, which can provide a good example to other women in coping with male-predators. So, by admitting that we are raped and bravely pointing a finger at a rapist, we are on a good way to uproot this deeply-rooted attitude that ‘a woman is the one who instigates a man to molest her’ – the phrase in which even molesters themselves don’t believe in, but they stick to this since they find it suitable for justifying their own unjustified and sick behaviour toward women.
    On the other hand, by staying silent and doing nothing, we can only encourage such molesters to continue with their dirty deeds.

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    1. Very well said. If we keep quiet and don’t take action, These abusers wil abuse someone else and this Vicious cycle wil never stop.

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  5. Kudos to Tanushree Dutta, truly a pioneer. It must have taken her a lot of courage to speak up against him on a public scale and she has given many women the confidence to do the same.
    I was deeply disappointed in Amitabh Bachchan for not answering his thoughts on Dutta-Patekar. Aamir Khan did have a diplomatic approach to it, but since he is such an activist I was disappointed that he didn’t do more. I believe the top actresses are worried about speaking up because actresses still remain dispensable and they don’t want to lose their top positions so I can understand their fear. Sonam has an established place in the industry, but she is still a star and has spoken up. Gotta love Sonam! Farhan Akhtar and Mahesh Bhupati have been amazing. Salman Khan never mind, he is, tragically, who he is.
    I’m so happy to see a blogger talking about this!

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    1. Unfortunately, Victim blaming is rampant in our country. It’s always a “Girl’s fault” and we asked for it ! Thank Goodness , #MeToo gave most of us courage to come out and publicly shame our abusers.

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  6. sadly in Tamilnadu when singer Chinmayi alleged Vairamuthu, the lyricist, every one turned against her. She was banned from dubbing artists association with a rude remark that she should have done household work instead of pursuing her passion and falling victim. People in the comments section accuse her of having political motivations.
    This is going one side but there is a big concern that worries me. Harrasment happens in every industry but since only media is known to us we are getting to know its ugly side but even in such highly publicised industry victim shaming is brutal, how would victims in all walks of life could come out. True one should always have the innocent until proven thought in mind but when so many women come out, we should not jump at her.. Me too is about listening to the voices of those who suffered and give a fair opportunity for a court trial.

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    1. So sad to know that people are ready to shut up voices of women when they stand up for something. More courage to these women who are daring enough to call out a man for his crimes.

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      1. Absolute truth! You can silence a single victim’s cry but you cannot silence everybody. Thank goodness for social media. Among the million demerits this one merit holds good

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